Q&A: College, Being a Girl, & Relationships
I’ve never done a Q&A – not on my YouTube channel, not on Instagram Stories/Live, and not on my website. I actually have some questions saved from one I was supposed to film for YouTube, so I figured I would use them here on the blog. If you ever have any other questions to ask me, leave them in the comments of my blog posts and I’ll definitely collect them for either an Instagram Live or another post here on the website. These are a hodgepodge of questions with no particular theme, but I could definitely do posts related to a certain topic as well.
1. What are your thoughts on interracial relationships? I could honestly care less about them. My sister is in an interracial relationship, and I don’t treat it any differently than if she were to be in a relationship with a black person. I was attracted to men outside of my race for most of my life; I’ve only recently come to the light that is black men, but if I wanted to be with someone outside of my race, who would fight me? I even cringe that the idea of “interracial” relationships and that they’re something enough to marvel at or a topic to talk about. If two people want to be together, why does their race matter?
2. Does your parents’ approval of your partner matter? Definitely, but only to a certain extent. Of course, I want my parents to like my boyfriend, but my parents’ indifference isn’t necessarily a deal breaker. I don’t think my parents really “love” my current boyfriend, partially because they’ve each only met him once or twice and haven’t really gotten to feel him out all that much, which is unfortunate. If they called me up tomorrow without a legitimate reason to break things off with him, though, I’d hang up the phone on them. If anything, I care the most about my two sisters’ approval of my partner – they know me the best and know what I deserve in a relationship, and oftentimes they catch red flags that I don’t.
3. Do you love college? I love aspects of college. I don’t enjoy only having $30 in my account and having to make that last for two weeks until payday. I don’t enjoy that I’ll probably have to get a second job on top of managing school, my social media presence, my website, a boyfriend, friends, and a new executive board position for an organization at my current office. I don’t enjoy that my university is always in the news for something negative, or that the higher-ups here make arbitrary decisions that aren’t in the interests of the student body. But I love learning. I love accounting as my major, and I love all of my professors. They’re genuinely good people who care about my wellbeing beyond my grade. Last spring, I had a professor for my Spirituality and Nature course who noticed I wasn’t participating in class discussions as much, and that I overall looked “sad.” I was going through a severe bout of depression and it definitely showed. He cared enough to make sure I was okay and to overall, just not be a jerk about my class participation. I enjoy my friends, I love the people I work with (for the most part), and I love my school’s recreation center. There’s a lot of stuff about college I love, but most of them don’t have to do with the university itself or the idea of the “college years.”
4. How many years do you have left to graduate? Technically, I could graduate this December if I wanted to, but I’m going to stay an extra semester and do an internship so Kaylah and I can have one big graduation rather than making our family come to Georgia twice in the span of two months. I’m also going to graduate school starting next fall, so that’s an additional year of school. To finish my undergrad, I have one more year, and to be completely done with school, I have two more years.
5. What inspires you? It depends on what aspect of my life I’m talking about. For school/careers, I’m inspired by how hard my parents worked to give me a decent upbringing, even during the hard times. I want to thank them in the grandest way possible, and do the same for my children. For social media and blogging, I’m inspired by my passion for makeup, fashion, lifestyle, and (now) wigs! I want to impart my knowledge on others to help them make informed buying decisions. For fitness, as bad as this sounds, it’s not wanting to be overweight and obese. I want to live a long time with as few health complications as possible, and when heart issues, cancer, diabetes, and other chronic issues are everywhere in my family, it makes me want to work harder to hopefully not have to deal with those issues as I grow older.
6. Worst thing about being an adult? Bills and taxes. Hands-down. I miss the times I was able to use my money on whatever I wanted to buy instead of basic necessities like food, rent, electricity, and water. And even though I know taxes are crucial to society, when there’s still so many things that aren’t getting fixed (Puerto Rico after the hurricanes, the Flint Michigan Water Crisis, heck, even just roads that blow my tires out every three months) it feels like I’m paying for absolutely nothing.
7. Worst thing about being a girl? Feeling insecure about my body. On my period, day to day, even when I’m just hanging out with my boyfriend. So much of a woman’s life is caring about what they look like at all moments of the day. I can always tell when I feel bloated and think I look pregnant, when my hair looks thin and brittle, and when my clothes are ill fitting…it’s rough dealing with insecurity all the time, no matter how self-confident you are.
8. Who is your celebrity crush? I have a few, but my all-time celeb crush is definitely Jesse Williams. Not only is he gorgeous and an amazing actor, but he’s such a loud voice for human rights advocacy that he’s hard not to love.
Hope you all enjoyed learning a little bit more about me!
Write you little lovelies later,
XO Ky M.